Welcome to Fighting for Our Children
As a teacher and a parent, I see children labeled every day. Teachers and administrators, even parents, label these children as 'the good child,' or 'the bad kid,' or 'the smart child.' This is unfair not only to the child, but to his or her classmates as well. Children are very perceptive and they can pick up on a teacher's or parent's feelings toward them. This creates a bias, a prejudice that spreads to the other children and teachers while it pollutes the child's own image of him or herself.
Even if a child has a, per se, 'acceptable' label such as smart or good, this can be destructive because the child has a tendency to place himself or herself above other classmates. It can also place undue pressure on the child to excel in everything. They forget to just be a kid. Additionally, teachers may tend to favor this 'good' child and let them slide on infractions of behavior and even assignment deadlines while peers may single them out as the 'teacher's pet.'
On the other hand, the 'bad child' is looked upon as a menace to the classroom, a nuisance that must be endured and tolerated. This child may also be subject to increased disciplinary actions and even the most minor infraction can land him or her in the principal's office. Teacher's are less tolerant of the 'bad child,' and that prejudice spreads to the child's classmates. This child is doomed from the start because this attitude presents an environment that is not conducive to success. All the child sees is failure, therefore, he or she feels that is their destiny or fate.
I have seen this again and again in the classroom. Many teachers see a child as one way or another and they are labeled. Once that child in labeled, it sticks with them unless someone steps in and stops it. Children should be celebrated for their strengths and they should be encourages and guided to play upon those strengths. They should not be condemned because they have an unfair label. I am both a parent and a teacher. I have seen children walk into my classroom carrying the burden of a label such as 'stupid' (yes, a teacher actually said this student was stupid), 'bad,' and even 'the model student.' I also saw all of these children fall into roles that did not allow them to grow and reach for more than they had already achieved.
It is our duty as parents to stop the unfair practices in the classroom and ensure that our children receive an unbiased education.
I have seen teachers walk into a classroom that was notorious for ill behaved students and they would write behavior referrals for the most minor infractions. I knew these children and recognized how unfair this was. I was the teacher who volunteered to take on this 'ill behaved' class and they have thrived with the encouragement and guidance I have given them. I don't let them slide on the behavior infractions and I expect a lot from them, but I am fair and they recognize that. They work hard in my class and I reward them with praise and respect. I can tell you right now that my 'bad kids' are some of the best, coolest kids I have ever encountered. They are insightful, funny, smart and quick witted. Once you look through the behavior, not focus on it, and see the child beyond something wonderful happens, they blossom. I focus on the child and his or her personal gifts. That is my focus. The behavior is there for a reason, but I do not make that the center of my relationship with the child.
I have a daughter who is epileptic with absence seizures and she is dyslexic. Sometimes homework and classwork can be a struggle due to her special challenges. Sometimes homework does not get done because she is just overwhelmed. One of her teacher's has labeled her and has harassed and humiliated her in front of her classmates. My daughter is very quiet and extremely shy and she loves school. She tries so hard but this teacher has marred her experience. She has lost some of her spark and does not talk about how much she loves school and math any longer. This math teacher has single-handedly created an environment where my daughter no longer feels happy and safe. In this woman's classroom my daughter feels like a failure because of the vicious words and actions of this one woman.
All it takes is one teacher to ruin a child's educational experience and we, as parents, must stay ahead of the game and know just what is going on in our children's classrooms. My daughter has me, fortunately, to do damage control. I also strongly reprimanded the teacher as well as informed the principal of her actions. I got the strong feeling that my words fell upon deaf ears, but it is not over. I will be taking it higher and I will not stop until something is done so that my little girl is no longer forced to endure this woman's abuse and harassment.
This is why I have created this site and this group, to bring to light the injustices that our children face daily in the classroom. It is time for us to take back our children's education and return equality and compassion to the classroom. Teaching is more than just a job, it is the impact on young lives that they will carry with them forever.
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